The Alpha male affected by depression will often hide his symptoms, fearing that they will appear ‘weak’ by their colleagues, families and friends. The need to remain at the top of the pile is so ingrained in the Alpha male, that to look for help is shaming. The recent suicide of Gary Speed, hugely successful player turned manager, came as an enormous shock to his family, friends and football fans. Only the evening before his death, he appeared on national television, apparently relaxed, focused and in control. Hours later he hanged himself. If we are to learn anything from this tragic suicide, it is that men have an enormous capacity not to express, or share, their vulnerabilities but instead are often able to hide overwhelming feelings behind a veneer of joviality and success.
Sadness and low mood are not the only indicators of depression and, to the untrained eye, depression is not always easy to spot, especially among men. Classic symptoms of male depression include anger, irritability and excessive risk taking with sex, alcohol, drugs, work or dangerous sports. At worst, depression can lead to suicidal thoughts and feelings – 80% of suicides are related to depression. Suicidal thoughts and feelings should be an indicator that help is needed, immediately. Psychotherapy and counselling can be a helpful deterrent to suicide, often in combination with medication.
Entering counselling or psychotherapy can help the depressed man discover the roots of his depression and offer an outlet for expressing the feelings that are so hard to share with others. In psychotherapy and counselling at The Cavendish Psychotherapy Practice, no one is judged. The individual will be heard with empathy, intelligence and discretion. At The Cavendish Psychotherapy Practice, the counsellors/psychotherapists work closely with Harley Street General Practitioners and Psychiatrists so can refer, within the same day, for medication, where appropriate.
Getting help for your depression through psychotherapy and counselling can make a huge difference in your life.