Counselling for Abuse

Psychotherapy Counselling for Victims of Violence and Abuse

Abuse can take many forms, for example physical, emotional, racial or sexual. Abuse can happen in many settings, such as the family home, the marital home, at work or college and it can occur at any time of life; as a child, mid-life, or when old. Abuse can be experienced by men and women and by people of any race, class or sexuality. Abuse is about exercising power, compliance and control – when harm is being done, against the wishes, knowledge or understanding of the victim. Counselling for abuse will help explore the impact of such circumstances.

Abuse (and violence) of any kind is traumatic and can leave lasting emotional marks, affecting the abused person’s self-belief, relationships and their quality of life. The trauma of any abuse – whether physical, sexual or psychological –  is a natural reaction to the stress, the fright or the distress of events or of ongoing circumstances.

Many of those who were abused – or are being abused – as children, adolescents or adults manage to get by, putting any trauma away or to one side. But often the trauma from the distant or recent past re-surfaces or becomes unbearable in a currently abusive relationship and this will lead to anxiety, distress and too-intense emotions. The resurfacing of old traumatic stress often has a trigger in one’s current life or experience.

The Ongoing Effects of Abuse

Feelings resulting from abuse can surface in many ways, in different people and in different combinations or indeed in series. These emotions include trauma, fear, doubt over fault, guilt, anger, shame, sadness & depression. These and more physiological problems (sleep, eating, and concentration problems) as well as the use of alcohol or drugs, can ruin lives.

Trust may often be an issue in later relationships and isolation can add further to the sense of helplessness – which ignores the opportunity to start to find ways to bear what may seem unbearable. For those in a currently abusive situation, it may be difficult to counsel couples but helping individuals understand abuse and helping them to find their voice may be of great benefit.

Financial abuse is less much discussed and is less open to scrutiny but it too can lead to many of the same problem. Like many other forms of abuse it relies on control and power issues.

Discussing feelings from any form of abuse with a professional psychotherapist can help

Finding help for abuse and the ensuing trauma can be daunting but we hope that reading this will help anyone with issues around abuse to take the first step.

Counselling for abuse at Cavendish Psychotherapy, with our professional therapists, will work through your experiences of abuse, whether past or present, and explore the impact they have had on your life. Through this exploration and support, the counselling therapy will help you develop new strengths to cope with the trauma and its emotional aftermath.

Everything discussed with your therapist (we have three female psychotherapists) is private and confidential. Therapists will never judge but only give support.

Sometimes people who have witnessed abuse or have been close third parties to abuse also have traumatic anxiety & distress and they may want to explore similar therapies.

For more details about Psychotherapy and Counselling for victims of more specific forms of abuse, please follow the links below:
Emotional Abuse or Psychological Abuse & Psychotherapy Counselling
Sexual Abuse & Psychotherapy Counselling
Physical Violence and Abuse & Psychotherapy Counselling