Counselling for Anger

Psychotherapy Counselling for Anger

What is Anger?

Anger is a natural human emotion that we all experience, to some degree. Anger is usually felt when we are either frightened or hurt; it is a response to perceived danger. It is often difficult to understand the causes of our anger and what underlies it. Anger can be extremely destructive and is often the cause of relationship breakdown. When this is the case it may be good to consider counselling for anger.

When anger becomes overwhelming, we can find ourselves responding in ways that may not be appropriate or helpful to our situation – whether it be at work, or in relationships at home or with friends. Anger that is out of control can isolate and alienate us.

Counselling or psychotherapy for issues around anger can help the individual identifiy underlying causes for the distress and help find ways of managing the emotion.

Anger may be triggered by many different underlying causes that may be difficult for the individual to identifiy. Bereavment, for example can leave us feeling frightened, confused and anger may be the way of expressing the fear or confusion. At work we may become angry when we are challenged by someone – again, this could trigger feelings of fear – ‘this person is challenging me because he thinks I’m not good enough, I might lose my job if I’m not good enough’ – here our anger is being expressed because we are frightened.

Anger can have destructive consequences not just on our relationships with others but also ourselves. Self loathing and guilt often follows outbursts of anger

Anger Leading to Domestic Abuse

Anger, at its most extreme can, of course, lead to violence. Violence within a relationship is hugely destructive. Anyone in a violent relationship, whether the perpetrator or the victim of the violence, should seek help. Anger and violence can become ‘normalised’ in a relationship – it’s important to remember that violence is not normal nor acceptable in any relationship.

Recognising Anger

Anger often has physical symptoms; increased heart beat, raised blood pressure, fast breathing, adrenalin rushes and sweats. Physical exercise can help reduce these physical symptoms. A combination of regular and vigorous exercise and psychotherapy or counselling can be a good way of starting to manage anger.

Acknowledging that you have a problem with anger is your first step in addressing the problem and you may decide to think about counselling for anger.

Counselling for Anger?

At the Cavendish Psychotherapy Practice one of our three psychotherapists will work with you to help you understand your thoughts, your feelings and your behaviour patterns and will help to enable you, moving forward, to manage your anger and your responses in a more healthy way. It’s important to understand the causes of your anger, as well as how to deal with it, so that you can live an easier life.

There may well be specific triggers to your rage and frustrations that need to be understood.

So it’s important that you talk to someone who can help you find your own answers to getting hold of the causes of your anger and who can help with both a therapeutic solution and a plan to help you to take control of anger in the future.

In some cases, taking responsibilities is part of the issue and becomes part of the solution.

Therapies for Anger Counselling

The Cavendish Psychotherapy Practice has three fully trained psychotherapists, one of whom will initially discuss with you the therapy that is suitable for you, depending on your own circumstances. This might include one or more of the below. For more information on our therapies please see our page on the right therapy.

Cognitive Analytic Psychotherapy/Therapy (CAT) for Anger

This therapy brings together understandings from cognitive psychotherapies (such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy – see below) and from psychoanalytic approaches into one co-ordinated, user-friendly and effective therapy. It is a collaborative plan of looking at the way you think, feel and act: You can agree with your therapist your own programme towards the future.

And about CAT, please see this fact sheet

Your psychotherapist may want to discuss these points in your therapy

  • Where do you become angry?
  • When do you become angry?
  • Why do you become angry?
  • What things or situations lead to your anger?
  • Does your anger trigger memories or images?
  • What are your emotional responses to your anger
  • What are your physical responses to your anger?
  • What are you thinking about when you become angry?
  • What do you do to manage anger and the resulting situation?
  • Do you behave in the same way each time?
  • What do think other people think when you become angry?

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for Anger

Counselling often involves cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) which is based on many behaviours are based on feelings – that you don’t necessarily understand at first and that you don’t want to feel. The therapy teaches you to replace these feelings and thoughts with preferred ones. CBT lasts several weeks, depending on you and your siyuation.

More about Anger & Psychotherapy

Triggers for anger will always exist and anger is a normal human emotion but when anger is out of control, psychotherapy can help you take back control in two different ways; firstly by helping you to understand why you are feeling so angry and secondly by helping you find strategies to manage the anger. As we say with all our therapy; you can begin to bear what you might think unbearable

The Cavendish Psychotherapy Practice is on Harley Street in central London. We have three therapists (see our therapist page) with advanced academic degrees in psychotherapy.

Please also see Stres, Anger & Anxiety & Psychotherapy Counselling